Who is your go-to person when you are in need of some relationship advice? Some people turn to their families; others ask their friends or therapists. And some people use Google to get the answers to their most burning questions. You might be wondering how to make the first move or perhaps how to end a long-distance relationship. Chances are that thousands of people around the world are asking these questions too.
Surprising Relationship Questions Many of Us Want Answers To
Each year, Google releases its “Year in Search” data. By filtering out spam and analyzing search trends, they are able to identify the most asked questions on all sorts of topics. As it turns out, people have a lot of questions about relationships, and they use Google to find answers to them.
Listed below are the top 10 most popular questions from the data collection (in order):
1. How to make long-distance relationships work?
Many of us are already in a long-distance relationship (LDR), or we’re planning to enter one. With the boom of online and mobile app dating, it’s no surprise that there is also a rise in LDR couples. It may be easy to enter into this type of relationship, but the hard part comes in maintaining it.
Solution: For your LDR to work, you have to know how to communicate effectively with your partner. It sounds cliché, but communication is the key.
2. How to change your relationship status on Facebook?
This question definitely reveals how much importance we put on social media and our presence on the different social platforms. Most of us feel the need to keep our followers updated on what is happening in our lives – love life included. Whether this is an ideal set-up or not depends entirely on the timing of your relationship status change.
Solution: Go to your “About” section, and you’ll be able to change your status there. As mentioned, you just have to make sure that your relationship status change is neither too late nor too early.
3. How to build trust in a relationship?
It’s surprising, isn’t it? This question, to most, is something that’s basic and fundamental. However, what most of us don’t realize is that people trust in different ways. The amount of trust your partner will give you will depend on your current circumstances.
Solution: Talk to your partner and establish how each of you understands trust. Talk about what you can both do so that trust is established and maintained in your relationship.
4. What is a Poly Relationship?
In case you didn’t know, poly is short for polyamorous which basically means that you are in a relationship with more than one person. The definition may seem oxymoronic to most of us because we’ve been brought up with the idea that one man is made for only one woman. However, there are plenty of Polyamorous couples that exist today.
Tip: If you’re considering to enter a poly relationship, you have to learn more about it first. The idea of being with one person could be tempting, but there’s more to it than meets the eye.
5. How to save your relationship?
Evidently, most of us would still like to salvage what’s left of our broken relationships. It’s important to understand that there’s no one-size-fits-all solution to relationship problems. Some may need lots of therapy, while others can simply be solved by spending more time with your partner.
Tip: Let’s be honest, some relationships are no longer save-able. No matter how many resources we read on how to save our relationships, sometimes, we simply need to learn how to let go.
6. What is an open relationship?
An open relationship is a type of polyamory relationship. Two people are in a committed relationship but both consent to their partner having intimate relations outside of their union. Don’t get your hopes up because it’s not like couples in open relationships are free to do whatever they want.
Tip: Open relationships are just as much work as regular relationships. There has to be a set of rules in place, so the couple knows their limits and trust is still established and maintained.
7. How to get over a relationship?
We’re probably going to keep asking this question until the end of time. We cannot avoid getting hurt and ending up broken-hearted. That’s just how love and relationships are – you win some, you lose some.
Solution: One of the best ways to get over a relationship is to focus on yourself. This method may not work for most people, but it helps when we try to take care of ourselves for a change instead of focusing on the pain we feel.
8. How to get out of a toxic relationship?
This is another question that many might be surprised by. If you’re not happy and find yourself in a toxic relationship, why won’t you just leave, right? As simple as it may sound, we need to understand that it is not easy to drop everything and leave. We’ve formed an attachment to our partner no matter how unhealthy he or she may be.
Solution: One factor that you need in your life is a good support system. Your system will be the people who will encourage you and help you let go of the relationship that’s not worth your time.
9. How to know when your relationship is over?
Just like the question before this one, we feel like staying in an unhealthy relationship because of the emotional attachment, and because we are hopeful that one day, our partner might change.
Solution: Always watch out for the red flags. However, it’s not the red flags you should be mainly worried about. You should be worried if you’re going to have enough courage to walk out the door when you know that there’s nothing to save anymore.
10. What does a healthy relationship look like?
One of our goals, when we enter into a relationship with someone, is to reach a healthy phase – both you and your partner are happy and contented.
Tip: A healthy relationship will depend on you and your partner’s perspective on “healthy.” What does it mean for the both of you? Once you’ve answered this, you can quickly come up with an action plan that will help you reach a healthy level in your relationship.
A Reflection of Modern Love
Because we are asking these questions, we can conclude that a good chunk of us want to learn more about less traditional types of relationships. We are also open to knowing different ways we can keep our current relationship healthy. In summary, asking these types of questions is a reflection of how we view love and relationship in this day and age.
We don’t really know how our treatment of love and relationships will evolve in the next few years, but with the data collected, it could indicate we are becoming more open-minded, aware, precarious but still trusting, and careful yet ready to take one, big, giant step to finding true love.