Same old process; brand new rules
The online dating scene is very dynamic and despite being around for only a few decades has changed drastically. We are not talking about changes regarding features, services or even the technology used. It is about the different attitudes that members of this community are adopting and practicing. Let’s call them the rules of online dating.
When online dating started to go mainstream, there wasn’t much difference between this method and offline dating in terms of rules, roles, and expectations. However, a lot has changed in the past few years. Here is what online dating looks like in 2018.
Eight things that have changed in the online dating community
1. No one has time to sit by the phone waiting
Gone are the days when keeping your date waiting for days for a reply was considered cool. These days, all it takes is a few hours delay in replies, and you are history. So drop the hard to get act and reach out when you find someone you like. If you wait too long, they might not be interested when you are ready.
2. The waiting period for getting physical has changed
Another waiting rule that has changed is on sex. That, of course, has always been a personal issue where different people set their time limits. There was, however, a consensus among most daters that sex on the first date was a major no-no. That has changed a lot in 2018 with the sex liberation trend where people believe in exploring chemistry as soon as possible.
3. Monogamy is now a choice; not a requirement
It might be a bit of a bummer especially if you are the one-person type who doesn’t want to share. With so many options out there for singles to choose from, it comes as no surprise that so many do not want to settle for just one. It is something you should be clear about when things start getting serious. The last thing you want is to fall for someone who is not all yours.
4. Conversations get deep fast
Small talk and shallow conversations are these days considered a chore when it comes to online dating. No one has time for all that effort. So do not shy away from talking about polarizing topics like religion or sexual orientation. It is all anyone is interested in these days anyway.
5. You are not as anonymous as you would like to be
Hiding under a made up username will no longer help to hide you. With a name and picture any internet-savvy person can find out exactly who you are. So there is no need of lying about your past or present to impress anyone. They will know if you are lying.
6. Indoor dates are now trendy
Gone are the days when the only way to have fun on a date was a romantic outing. These days, online dates often culminate with indoor activities like movie marathons, arts and crafts, and even fun cook-offs. The important thing is to ensure that you know and trust the person enough to be in such a situation.
7. Girls can make the first move too
Gender roles have done a complete 180 in online dating’s recent past. What is the biggest change is the fact that women are now stepping up and making the first move. There are even websites dedicated to such women empowerment as well as protection where they are the only ones allowed to make the first move.
8. Anyone can pay on the date
Another major gender-related change is regarding paying for dates. There is still some debate about this with many online daters, especially men, insisting that the guy should pick up the tab for the first few dates. However, it is no longer awkward or completely unheard of for the girl to pay or cover separate costs like drinks or cabs.
In conclusion, the game has changed, and you need to be ready to adjust to the new rules. There is nothing wrong with sticking to your standards and rules. However, you need to be flexible enough to change with the times if you truly want to get the most out of this experience. So start by understanding what is different and work towards adapting and changing your dating style to make it easier on yourself.