If you’re a single man or a woman who wants to meet someone new to marry or have a relationship with, the best thing to do is create romantic experiences for yourself. To succeed in this endeavor, however, you’re going to need to put yourself out there and take risks.
You should always carry around a business card with you. It can say whatever you want just as long as it has your name, phone number and email address on it. Give it out to everyone you speak to. Force yourself to be more open and talk to new people even if you don’t consider them a prospective date. You never know who they know. When you see someone you’re attracted to, try to speak to them. They might reciprocate your interest and be available as well.
The notorious cognitive psychologist Dr. Albert Ellis would go up to droves of women (over a matter of time) and ask them out on dates. Although only a few of them would say yes (he wasn’t the greatest looking or the most charming), his attitude was: “you only need just one.” He didn’t personalize the women who turned him down because he barely knew them and felt it was just a numbers game.
So, when you see someone you’re attracted to, you can start out by sending them body signals (eye contact, smile). If you feel even a slight connection, try to initiate some sort of dialogue. The best conversation starters are simple ones. For example, you can say to the person sitting next to you at a bar or waiting for their plane at the airport, “Hi I’m Sue. How has your day been so far?” The complementary approach is “What a nice sweater!” The inquisitive approach is “Is that camera hard to operate? I’ve always wanted to learn how to take a good photo.” Another example is “Is that a good book? It’s been on my books to read list for months.”
At the end of this brief chat, give him/her your contact information. In sales lingo, you’re going to give him your business card as you “close.” In the event you don’t have your card on you, give him your phone number instead. Remember to get their contact information as well. Always, always, always, get their business card or phone number. This is even more important than them having your card or phone number. This way you don’t lose out on any opportunities.
Don’t forget to follow up. If they take your card and you still don’t hear from them, call them. What the hell! You might never see them again anyway. If they don’t sound excited to hear your voice, then just talk a couple of minutes and get off. If they do sound happy to hear from you, talk awhile and try to pin them down for a casual date. If they turn you down, at the very least, you tried. Remember, you got to be in it to win it.
Also, try dating “outside the box.” In other words, if you have a blueprint of who you’re usually attracted to, try to be more open-minded and less rigid. It will expand your choices resulting in making more people available for you to date, and increase your chances of finding that special someone.
Another great way to meet new people is by signing up for a good online dating site. These sites expand the number of potential matches indefinitely and give you a chance to broaden your horizons. The best thing about online dating is that you can become a member of so-called niche sites, be it for meeting Latin singles on AmoLatina.com or single Asians on ChinaLove.com. No matter which site you decide to join, remember to keep your heart open to new connections.