A relationship doesn’t have a good chance of surviving if there are issues with the communication. The worst part is that those problems you think are insignificant later come to bite you after ignoring them allows them to blow up. So what exactly are these pitfalls that you should be looking out for? Here are 8 of the most common.
Eight communication snags to avoid
1. Late replies
That is not only a common communication snag but also a pet peeve for very many people. It more often than not applies to text messages but could also be unreturned calls. It leaves a bad taste in your partner’s mouth and makes them feel unimportant. So take a minute or two of your busy schedule to reply, and it will make all the difference.
2. … or no replies at all
Getting no replies is even worse than getting late replies. It shows a total disregard for not only the message but the sender. It will send your relationship to its grave faster than you can say the word ‘send’. So if you want things to work out, you might want to be bothered enough to respond. In this case, it is truly better to be later than not to reply at all.
3. Passive aggressiveness
That is a common source of miscommunication in relationships. The main reason is that there is no communication involved. You or your partner gets mad and disappointed, and instead of addressing the issue you end up in a silent treatment standoff. That is not a great way out and will leave your relationship with a lot of unaddressed baggage.
4. Communication devoid of passion and romance
If there is no difference between a phone call or text to your casual friends and those to your significant other, then you are doing something wrong. It should be so full of cheesiness that any spectators want to hurl. So include a couple of pet names and a ton of compliments, and you should be good to go.
5. Lack of clarity on important issues
The main issue here is the status of the relationship. Many people these days do not take time to answer the ‘what are we?’ question. Lack of clarity here could lead to misunderstandings that make the relationship toxic. So sit your partner down and have this and other hard talks like it. Your relationship will be all the better for it.
6. Not listening
This pitfall is particularly common when it comes to communication in times of conflict. It might not seem that way, but you are not always correct when you argue with your significant other. It is therefore very important to let your partner speak their truth. You will be surprised by how much you can learn from them.
7. Listening but not acting
You may also be one of those partners who listens but does not internalize what they hear. It is a small communication issue that may seem inconsequential but ends more relationships than most other problems on this list. If she tells you to put the toilet seat down and you keep ignoring her, then there will be trouble. If he insists on having you squeeze the toothpaste from the base and you go about your mid-tube ways, then you are just adding fuel to the fire that will burn your relationship. So listen, remember what your partner tells you and act on the corrections.
8. Failure to make your expectations known
Another major communication pitfall in relationships is a failure to communicate. That covers everything from expectations to concerns. You need to be open and honest about exactly what you want from your partner. It makes it easier for them to deliver ensuring the mutual enjoyment of the relationship’s benefits. Failure to open up means that you will most likely end up frustrated and hurt more often than you need to be.
The importance of healthy communication in a long lasting relationship cannot be emphasized enough. You cannot maintain the momentum when there are faults here. The eight pitfalls above are fortunately very easy to identify and to work out. So you do not have to worry about the inevitable death of the relationship if you experience one or more. All you have to do is be willing to put in the work to strengthen communication in your relationship. With such an attitude, there is truly no communication drawback that will be a match for your partnership.